Weddings can be very tricky social occasions with customs and traditions that could fill an entire library. Each and every one of them has their own particular do’s and don’ts, especially weddings from different cultures. It’s important if you are attending a wedding, such as an Indian, Greek or Jewish wedding for example, that you should really be informed if you want the event in particular to go as smoothly as possible. Luckily we have put together a wedding list for those of you are fortunate to be attending a Jewish Wedding in the near future. So grab your cameras, put on your best clothes and get ready for a whirlwind tour of a Jewish Wedding.
For Your Eyes Only in a Week
Unlike Catholic or Christian weddings, the Bride and Groom do not set eyes on each other for quite a while before the wedding. They must wait one week before they can officially lay eyes on each other again on their wedding day. Even on the day of their ceremony they are separated in two rooms. The Bride sits on a majestic chair in front of her guests while they shower her with compliments and good wishes. The Groom is in another room where his guests raise their glasses and sing to him. So whether you are the guest of the Bride or Groom, you’ll want to practice your very best voice.
In most weddings, the Bride is the centre of attention and this is no different at a Jewish wedding. In fact, the Saturday before her wedding, all the girls get together and celebrate the wedding-to-be in style. This is a day when sisterhood means everything and (even if you don’t know the bride that well) as long as you are female you can help send her off with a good old fashioned girl’s night in. On a serious note, though, this is a day to make the Bride-to-be feel relaxed and to ease any worries or doubts she may have before the Big Day.
Food For Thought
A Jewish Wedding is a religious wedding and so the Bride and Groom will not eat until all the festivities have well and truly finished. So, if you see either one of them looking a little hungry hours before they walk down the aisle, don’t offer them a bite of your sandwich as they won’t be too impressed.
Smile For The Camera
One of the best photos you can get at a wedding is when the Groom lifts his Bride’s veil and shares their first kiss with everybody. Save your cameras till later, as the Bride’s veil is not lifted at a Jewish Ceremony because beauty is seen as temporary and it is the love the couple has for each other that is witnessed, not the physical beauty.
A Heart of Glass
It is customary for the Groom to wrap something made of glass such as a Champagne Flute in a napkin and stomp on it after he has said I do. No, the Groom has not gone mad and there’s no need for you to offer your first aid skills. This is an important part of the wedding ceremony which reminds the couple of the destruction of the temple in Jerusalem and to think of that even in happy times.
Three’s A Crowd
As soon as a Jewish couple are married, there’s no time for photo opportunities as they are whisked off to a room. This is where the couple spend their first bit of alone time as newlyweds. As they haven’t seen each other for a week, it is a time when they can enjoy each other’s company and enjoy the moment of having just got married. So, don’t feel left out. It’s all part of the Jewish Tradition.
You are now ready to attend your Jewish Wedding. Good Luck!
Bob Emerald is a wedding photographer who has never been to a Jewish Wedding yet, but if he was invited he would talk to the specialist in Jewish Weddings first so he would know what photos to take.